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    Don't be afraid to speak up!We always, always need people who are socially conscious and want to help improve the lives of women. There are so many areas of activism and we need volunteers, campaigners but also those who want to work quietly in the background in fundraising research..

    Whilst we were reading on a relatively new topic ‘cyber-flashing’, which has definitely been on the rise the past few years because of the technological advancements and smartphone use frequency, we came across Karen Whybro, a feminist activist and equality campaigner based in Essex, raising awareness on the subject matter (which will be discussed later on).  Karen’s campaigning however did not begin there. Karen has been campaigning in Essex and the rest of the UK for urgent and radical response to the rising rates of violence against women and children. She currently works alongside Chelmsford Council, Chelmsford BID & University of Essex to raise awareness, lobby for investment and action for women’s rights and bring radical change to safety in Essex. She also worked as a primary teacher, and is the founder of a modern wedding-dress boutique with stores in Brighton, Essex and Cheshire.

    To get a few facts straight in the UK a man kills a woman every three days; and a woman is killed by a male partner or ex-partner every four days.

    The femicide of Sarah Everard, Sabina Nessa and of sisters Bibaa Henry and Nicole Smallman, in London, have sparked a UK conversation on male violence, on the exhausting onus put on women to stay safe, whilst they have opened Pandora’s box on the interrogation of the institutions (e.g., Metropolitan Police) which are supposed to protect women and not policing victim behaviour.

    We are very grateful that Karen agreed to have a talk with us about her work. So, Karen lets dive right into it!

    Women have been saying for decades now that enough is enough and I felt it was the right time to add my voice to the already amazing work being carried out by many organisations in the UK.

    What triggered your involvement in activism and campaigning for women’s rights?

    Like many people, I was hugely shocked and saddened at the horrific murder of Sarah Everard and felt compelled to do something in her honour. We had planned a local vigil here in my hometown to avoid travelling during COVID restrictions but this was shut down by the police 24 hours before it should have gone ahead. I would say that the huge global outrage at Sarah’s murder by a police officer but also the continued behaviour of the MET police and UK government following the event really lit the touch-paper for my campaigning. Women have been saying for decades now that enough is enough and I felt it was the right time to add my voice to the already amazing work being carried out by many organisations in the UK.

    We need to start educating our young people about consent, about bodily autonomy and challenge gender stereotypes as early as possible in order for an improvement in attitudes towards women and a move away from the rape culture we see now.

    How important is activism for gender related crime in the UK and do you think it is of critical importance in shaping the law?

    Hugely important. To me, unless we begin to have the difficult conversations around gendered violence and acknowledge that there is an issue, globally, with male violence, we will never tackle the root issues causing 3 women to be killed every week at the hands of men. Some of my campaigning could be considered carceral feminism but, for me, the crux of changing attitudes and behaviour begins with education. We need to start educating our young people about consent, about bodily autonomy and challenge gender stereotypes as early as possible in order for an improvement in attitudes towards women and a move away from the rape culture we see now. I strongly believe that until this happens, we won’t see any change in the woeful prosecution rates we currently have here in the U.K. 

    You mentioned to us that you work locally with the University of Essex and that a paper will be published this year (in which you were part of) regarding women changing their behaviour based on their perception of safety. Could you share with our readers more about this and on what this paper will be about?

    Right at the beginning of my campaigning, I felt it was important to hear from women locally about how they felt just going about their everyday business here in Chelmsford. I was shocked that the results showed that especially young women felt very unsafe, particularly at night, and the huge disparity that existed between how safe men felt compared to women. My wonderful contact at the University of Essex got in touch to see if I would like my survey to be used as part of a research project into how women change their behaviour based on how safe they feel, and the survey was relaunched to include the whole of Essex. The paper isn’t yet published but we already expect it to be used by local authorities to shape more research and policy here around how safe women feel.

    I feel it worth noting here, too, that how safe we FEEL versus how safe we actually are is worth considering. The perception of safety in society isn’t always around potential threats but more often about a lack of community and connection. This is why I focus a lot of my campaigning on how we can improve the experience of women through a focus on relationships and the promotion of women in all walks of life.

    One of the biggest concerns to me is the continued victim-blaming I witness on a daily basis. Gender bias sadly still underpins a lot of views here in the U.K. and the response from men can quite often be very defensive and very dismissive.

    What has your experience taught you about: a) society’s perception of male violence against women and b) society’s perception of female victims of violence?
    My work has certainly made me question this a lot! Before I became involved in campaigning, I was always quite optimistic that women’s rights in general were continuing to improve. However, the more I campaigned and the more media attention I received, the more I realised that we still have SO far still to go in respect of social attitudes towards violence against women and girls. I was ignorant myself about the horrific statistics just here in the U.K. and knew little about the appalling conviction and prosecution rates for sexual violence. It has truly opened my eyes to how much there is still to do.

    One of the biggest concerns to me is the continued victim-blaming I witness on a daily basis. Gender bias sadly still underpins a lot of views here in the U.K. and the response from men can quite often be very defensive and very dismissive. Too many men will not acknowledge that violence is a male issue or that they are responsible for improving attitudes they see around them. Throughout media here, we see persistent headlines which either remove the perpetrator completely from a story or lay the blame on the women. One of my biggest challenges is getting people to understand and recognise that we must shift the focus from what victim’s roles are in a crime to a bottom-line cultural rejection of misogyny and its associated behaviour.

    Despite living very close to the mother of murdered sisters Nicole Smallman and Bibaa Henry, their story wasn't even told in local press here.

    Do you think that violence against women of color in the UK receives equal institutional /media attention as when it occurs against white women?

    The short answer is no. Sadly, as horrific and tragic as the murder of Sarah Everard was, the case certainly gained more media attention because of her whiteness. Despite living very close to the mother of murdered sisters Nicole Smallman and Bibaa Henry, their story wasn’t even told in local press here. It was a comparable type of murder yet the outrage just didn’t occur as it did with Sarah. Now, coming up to the anniversary of Sarah’s murder, I am receiving endless media requests for interviews and I would say that we need to look at how we report on femicide here in the U.K. Sarah wasn’t the first and she certainly isn’t the last. We need to honor all women or we will never be able to improve safety for us all.

    ...while men may not be killed BECAUSE they are men; women are most certainly killed BECAUSE they are women. Until this changes, the counter-argument of #notallmen really isn't valid.

    What is your response to those who, in discussions of gender-based violence, bring up that 79% of homicide victims worldwide are men?

    This is true. But also, 92% of murders are committed to men. So men are killed more often than women, but also by men. This is a VERY common response when discussing gendered violence and the #notallmen hashtag became a very key point of discussion on social media platforms. My answer is always the same. Yes, male violence affects us all and if we change the landscape and the expectations of men, resulting in an improvement in culture, then it benefits us all. We all want a society that is safe for us all. The point I would like to make, however, is that while men may not be killed BECAUSE they are men; women are most certainly killed BECAUSE they are women. Until this changes, the counter-argument of #notallmen really isn’t valid.

    Are there other activism projects of yours that you’d like to reflect upon?

    Honestly, I think I was quite naive when I put out my first survey. I had no idea how unsafe young women still felt on a night out which was very depressing to read. However, I think the aspect that others might find surprising is just how little faith women feel when it comes to those in authority. Too often, the knee-jerk reaction to violent crime is increasing police presence when I hear from many, many women that their trust in the police has eroded massively since Sarah’s murder and the subsequent media stories about the MET police, in particular. Women don’t feel safe simply because of knowing there are more police on the streets.

    Education is the cornerstone to making lasting and meaningful steps towards ending gendered violence.

    Being a former teacher yourself, how important do you think education is for gender-related issues and gender-based violence?
     
    Essential. Education is the cornerstone to making lasting and meaningful steps towards ending gendered violence. I truly believe that unless we have a huge overhaul of the PSHE curriculum alongside legislation and law change, we won’t see things improve for women. It has to be a culture that underpins everything we do, hear and see in schools from when children are very young. Boys and girls need teaching how to have positive relationships with themselves and others, including how to consent to any physical element of a relationship.
     

    As briefly mentioned above, on 7/2/2022 we read a UK article stating that Cyber-Flashing will be criminalized in England and Wales, as it is set to be included in the Sexual Offences Act 2003 (and not as part of the Online Safety Bill). Whilst reading more on the subject, we came across your real-life experience and decision to support /team up with Bumble’s campaign on cyber-flashing (check Karen’s interview on ‘this morning’ here)*.

    Can you introduce to our readers the term and act of cyber-flashing?
     
    Cyber-flashing, or digital flashing, is when someone sends an unsolicited sexual photo to somebody else through a digital platform. It most commonly happens on social media apps such as Snapchat and Instagram but also via Airdrop where someone can send an image to another iphone user in the same locality. The act of cyberflashing has a hugely negative impact on women and young girls and we believe it should be treated as the same crime as someone flashing in person.
     
    What comments did people make when you shared your story online/on television? How did you feel about those comments?
     
    As with any media, there are always positive and negative comments. For this campaign, they actually have been vastly positive with most people agreeing that it should be a crime. Sadly, there are always those who fail to recognise how distressing this kind of act can be for people and don’t see the issue. There has been considerable research carried out about the impact of cyber-flashing on victims by Professor Clare McGlynn who is excellent at discussing this issue.

    My biggest challenge is getting many people to believe that women even have anything to still fight for!

    Have you faced challenges over the years in being active around women’s rights? Do any stand-out for you?

    Many! My biggest challenge is getting many people to believe that women even have anything to still fight for! It still astounds me that so many (including women) believe that women have achieved equality and that we are somehow too privileged to be continuing this fight. Sadly, many people fail to recognize that although we may have legal rights, they don’t necessarily equate into cultural changes which truly improve the experiences of women in all ways of life. 

    What is your advice if any, from your experience to pass on to other women who are thinking about getting involved with social activism?
    Do it!! Don’t be afraid to speak up! We always, always need people who are socially conscious and want to help improve the lives of women. There are so many areas of activism and we need volunteers, campaigners but also those who want to work quietly in the background in fundraising research! You don’t have to be a placard-holding angry feminist – but until everyone starts to stand up and take notice, things won’t change for us all.

    *Bumble’s campaign, which started in November 2021, was about raising awareness about the prevalence of cyber-flashing, campaigning to criminalize this abhorrent behavior.

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